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For years now my ex husband occasionally spews at me that I don’t know how to forgive, that I hold grudges, and that I obviously never loved him.
We’ve been divorced 8 years. It’s time to let go.
He believes forgiveness means we become ‘friends’.
We can never be friends.
I choose not to be ‘friends’ with anyone who mistreats me or has obvious disdain for me.
I choose not to engage him or respond to him during his personal attacks on me. (I have nothing to prove to him.) Yet I’m to blame for starting ‘petty arguments’ if I stand up for one of our kids.
I admit for many years I did have much hatred in my heart for him. I hated him with every breath I took.
It wasn’t until I knew the end of our relationship was upon us that I was able to let go of the hatred and forgive him. That forgiveness was for my sake. I wanted out of the relationship with my sanity in tact. I didn’t want to be a bitter, cold, hard-hearted person incapable of loving or trusting anyone else.
I do not love him nor do I hate him. Both are strong emotions and either way it means you have feelings for someone. I have nothing left for him. I just want to be left alone and live my life in peace.
Yes, I have forgiven him…many, many times as once is just not enough. I hope some day he can learn to forgive himself.
1. To put back into a former position or place.
2. To take or fill the place of.
3. To be or provide a substitute for.
That was said to me last night by my very angry ex because our son did not want to visit with him this weekend. What that (and many other things that were said) has to do with our son is beyond me.
I don’t even feel the need to defend myself or provide an explanation for the above quote. I think the meaning behind it speaks for itself.
Have a blessed weekend. Stay strong and write yourself a happy ending!!!