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15 Signs Someone Might Be Dangerous

Do they do one or more of these things? Then it’s time to get help or get out.

1. Wants to get involved fast: Right away he wants you to promise to only be with him. Says, “No one’s ever loved me like you do.”

2. Jealous: He wants to make sure you aren’t with anyone else; calls all the time, or shows up without telling you he’s coming.

3.Wants to control you: Wants to know who you talked to and where you were; checks mileage on your car; keeps all the money; makes you ask for his OK to go anywhere or do anything.

4. Expects you to be perfect: He expects you to know what he wants and meet his every need.

5. Cuts you off from others: Doesn’t want you to see family and friends; won’t let you have a phone or a car; doesn’t want you to work.

6. Blames others for problems: If anything goes wrong, it’s always someone else’s fault–the boss, you. Everyone is out to get him.

7. Blames others for his feelings: He says, “You’re hurting me by not doing what I tell you” or “You make me mad” instead of “I’m mad.

8. Gets upset easily: He gets mad about things that are just part of life.

9. Hurts animals and children: Kills or punishes animals. Wants children to do things they can’t, or teases them until they cry.

10. Uses force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; says he finds the idea of rape exciting.

11. Says things to hurt you: Always criticizes you or says cruel things; puts you down, curses, calls you ugly names.

12. Thinks women should obey men: Wants you to serve, obey and stay at home.

13. Sudden changes in mood: Switches from sweet and loving to mad in a few minutes.

14. Has hit women before: Says he hit women in the past.

15. Says he will hurt you: Says things like “I’ll break your neck, then says” I didn’t really mean it.”

Don’t wait until you get hurt ! Get help or get out.

Please note: by referring to ‘he’ and ‘him’ I am not implying that only men are abusive. Both men and women can be abusive. Everything posted on site applies to both genders.


  1. Aimee says:

    I wish I had seen this list when I was younger. It might have saved me a whole lot of heartache and trauma. Thanks for sharing it!

  2. I think you should reconsider 8, 13, and 14.

    8-Natural parts of life are things that can easily infuriate the best human on Earth; don’t expect perfect reactions to situations.

    13- Mood swings. Natural part of life.

    14- People can change.

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